Writing The Perfect Thank-You Note

Whether it's just after the birthday party, after your shower, or just after announcements go out, you'll likely be flooded with thoughtful gifts. Though you've probably written thank you notes before, many moms feel overwhelmed by the sheer volume of notes they must write. We racked our collective brains and spoke with stationers at the Triangle's best shops for tips on writing a truly great thank you note.

The perfect thank you note should be handwritten.

Especially in our technologically advanced world, a hand-written note conveys a personal, intimate expression of thanks.

The perfect thank-you note should be sent within a few weeks of receiving a gift.

Gift givers don't feel that you genuinely love their gift if you wait six months to say thank you.

Include thoughts from both of you.

Though the note should be written in the first person, it's nice to include your husband's thoughts about the gift.

Try writing as if you're speaking.

Don't worry about crafting the perfect sentence. Rather, tell them what you love about the gift and thank them in a heartfelt and genuine way.

The perfect thank-you note checklist:

  • Mention the gift. If possible, use descriptive words.
  • Talk about your enjoyment of the gift - how you are using it or plan to use it.
  • Talk about the appropriateness of the gift given your circumstances.
  • Talk about the taste and selections of the gift giver. (You always know just what little Emma likes! You chose the perfect one for her nursery!)
  • Mention your husband and his thoughts on the gift.
  • If it is money, mention how you will spend it.

A Sample Shower Thank-You Note

Dear Aunt Cathy,

Thank you so much for the beautiful receiving blanket. I have already folded it on little Emma's crib. When Bill came home from work, he immediately noticed it. When I told him that you made it, he smiled and commented on the one that you made for him when he was little. I hope that little Emma treasure's it like Bill treasured his blanket. I can't wait to see her wrapped in it. I promise to send you a picture of her in it when we bring her home from the hospital.

Sincerest thanks,

Sarah Beth